Are pure blood people really that racist towards mixed race people? Depends on how and where they were raised. After I looked on the web about the new hit TV series, Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. on ABC, which I was just watching recently which was recorded to my Comcast DVR, there was a seemingly racist article about one of the recent Eurasian actors of that show, or so, from this site from a pure blooded Japanese and Asian writer which I kind of found offensive as well as maddening. I’m getting to believe that he is having problems with mixed race Asians as well as other races who are mixed, like typical pure blooded people do. It’s like saying mixed race Asian people can’t be nor act like they’re Asian enough nor any other race they are mixed with even if they are grandchildren, great-grandchildren, or great-great grandchildren of Asian couples paired with other races, not just children. The media, including film and TV, depicts them that way. Even people in some parts of America which aren’t that diverse also think of them that way too. The media and society has a tendency to think of Asians as intelligent, good at math and science, and collectivist. For the men, martial arts experts, bitchy, especially at women who come to them, including non-Asian and mixed race Asian women, in a sexual manner, that is, insecure, jealous, catty and judgmental towards non-Asian men and mixed race Asian men, and competitive. For the women, timid, aloof, silent, inexpressive, subservient, less confident, and assertive. And mixed race Asians are often seen as not fitting any of these stereotypes and norms not unless they look more Asian than another race in their genes, both men and women. They’re rather seen as acting like other races instead or all or a combination of both that they can’t fit into one race.
Apparently, there’s still a lot of racial categorization going on, even in online dating too. Most people who go on online dating sites are really afraid of mixed race people and feel like they can’t trust them because they think of them as being raised in many different cultures instead of one and are often shocked to find out that a mixed race person has two parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, or great-great grandparents of different races, especially if they come from pure blood families that are strict and old-fashioned and have a lot of influence to constrain who they date and marry by setting them up for blind dates and/or arranged marriages to fellow pure blood people, mostly of their own race.
But anyway, there’s still pressure to identify with one race and it seems like it would never go away just so that way people, especially pure blood ones, won’t be confused and will find it easier to identify a person. How many racist articles, Facebook posts, and Twitter posts have there been about mixed race people? I’d say quite a lot, especially with the recent Cheerios ad with a half African/White girl who happened to be around 5, 6, or 7 years old with a White mother and African father, despite that it had pretty good humor. The main thing those producers were trying to do was to depict a real American family by means of interracial couples with mixed race children rather than the usual boring same race couples with single race children like most commercials and ads have because there are interracial couples with mixed race children, grandchildren, and so forth in America and sometimes the media doesn’t seem to get it but rather depict single race couples with single race children, grandchildren, and beyond because they think they’re more the representative norm of America which isn’t always true. And that ad sparked a lot of racist comments, tweets, and Facebook posts about the family in it as well as the mixed child.
If people always focus on race more often, even when it comes to dating, relationships, and marriage, they could always end up miserable, like they always do on average, rather than focusing on character and/or abilities. It’s common.
Starting this week, I learned two new languages on livemocha.com. Russian and Brazilian Portuguese. Brazilian Portuguese is easy of course since it’s pretty much like Spanish. Russian, it’s quite difficult. Reading the letters, pronunciation which is quite tongue-tying that it’s easy to stutter. Of course, I believe it should be learned carefully due to reading and pronunciation as far as it goes. It sounds quite Slavic and would require listening to over and over again and then repeating it as well. If you want to learn how to pronounce the Russian alphabet, consonants, and vowels, I suggest you go to this site, http://www.russianforeveryone.com/. The drawback is that the speakers speak phrases very fast that it’s tongue-tying that you have to play the sounds over and over again and repeat them until you get them right.
In response to my entry about Project Runway being marginalized towards people with disabilities, I find it to be ableist as well especially with last week’s episode in which the judges asked the contestants who should go to New York Fashion Week. Dom, Bradon, and Alexandria all said that they would definitely take Justin to New York Fashion Week due to all the progress he has made to prove that he is not limited by disability while Helen didn’t. I have found her to not only be arrogant and overly dramatic but I’ve found her to be subtly ableist towards Justin. And the judges really do feed into that, despite her terrible-looking, disorganized, unstable, distasteful-looking garments. My goodness! These judges are so gullible to her manipulative actions that they should at least eliminate her and give her the Auf this Thursday! How maddening! There is no way she can ever go to Fashion Week with unstable, distasteful, disorganized garments. Not many contestants didn’t even want to take her to Fashion Week, either. It was Justin who was mostly favored to show up at Fashion Week followed by Dom and Bradon.
“Helen, I’m sorry you’re out. Auf Wiedersehen.” Arrogance, rudeness, and prejudice towards others will never lead one to success at all, especially with people like Helen. Instead these types people are more likely to fail rather than succeed, even in the real world fashion industry too.
Does Helen think a disabled person can’t be successful just because she is able and hearing and thinks she can do better? She is one sickening contestant who only cares for nothing but herself rather than others, including those with special needs, or disabilities, whatever like Justin, for example!
Project Runway’s judges don’t care. They’d rather pick people based on who they think is popular to them even though their garments, as well as attitudes, are tacky, tasteless, and unstable and let them win challenges or so. This is very maddening! Even Project Runway All Stars judges haven’t bought much into tacky, tasteless, unstable garments and attitudes from contestants at all so far. They want everything to look classy, stable, and tasteful instead and they also choose based on attitude and effort as well.
Even the judges are the same way too, despite that they buy always keep buying into Helen’s BS and ignoring Justin’s progress since they’re always choosing whoever wins challenges or so based on who they think is popular even when they have such terrible work.
Luckily, last season’s winner Michelle Lesniak Franklin, once a mean, arrogant, insensitive douchebag, had displayed lots of sensitivity towards Justin as season 12 began and believed he can do whatever he can to succeed on Project Runway. Thanks, Michelle.
Is Justin being marginalized by judges as well as viewers like most disabled people on TV and film despite his dynamic works? Of course, I’ve seen some offensive Internet posts about him including Tweets.
Although I am quite an avid watcher of the fashion design competition reality TV series Project Runway and after watching deaf contestant Justin LeBlanc from Raleigh, North Carolina on the current season, which is season 12, working to push himself further and make his garments look more bold, dramatic, couture, unique, colorful, sophisticated, and expensive through the whole entire twelfth season, he had been constantly attacked by the judges, including Nina Garcia, fashion director for Marie Claire magazine, whom I think sounds very insensitive, selfish, and prejudiced, or biased, especially with the “foaming vagina” remark which I believe was episode 6, the camping or “glamping” challenge, in which he designed a risque long gown with glue gun lace from top to the hip that I can’t say but apparently saved him thanks to host Tim Gunn. Other than that, the recent super fan challenge, HP textile design challenge, and just this week, the avant garde butterfly challenge were have been very idiotic. In the super fan challenge, Justin’s muse was a Mormon woman who got in shape and he designed an unusual dress that had an embroidered signature on in that was supposed to have him win but fellow hearing, normal designer Helen Castillo whom the majority of viewers loathe due to her arrogant, bad-girl type dramatic jerk behavior ended up winning that challenge with her Sleeping Beauty Maleficent Disney villain designer dress rip-off that looked really terrible, especially with the draping at the waist that was sewn halfway! How stupid! While in the HP textile design challenge, Justin designed a dress with a wildly-shaped corset with an “I love you” sign language pattern that was very abstract that it looked like a wild animal that was supposed to get him to the top and win but it got him into the bottom three even though he was safe thankfully. Whew! And now for the recent challenges, the avant garde butterfly and Tim’s “Make It Work” motto challenge all on the same night, Justin really worked hard to create drama, class, and sophistication with his two dresses that the judges toyed with him and declared fellow designer (also hearing and normal) Bradon McDonald’s two dresses as winning garments instead despite the avant garde butterfly dress looked like messy noodles and the “Make It Work” motto dress looked like it had an apron on the side (which most viewers thought were really messy as well as disorganized) that put Justin in the bottom three instead even though the majority of the contestants and viewers, including myself, wanted Justin to go to the New York Fashion Week finale due to the tremendous effort he has put into his work all along, including the most recent avant garde butterfly and “Make It Work” challenges that received so many positive comments from the judges as well as Nina Garcia, but they toyed with him instead, having him to compete with the other two worst designers for a spot in New York Fashion Week despite he had excellent-looking garments for the night. Sounds like subtle marginalization or bias here. I pray Justin makes it into the New York Fashion Week finale and that God help him if possible.
Before Justin, Patricia and other minority designers on Project Runway were marginalized by judges and viewers too (with racist Internet posts and Tweets), due to a monoracial White and able fashion industry, despite her dynamic works like Justin in season 12.
Of course, this does also remind me of season 11 where Native American designer Patricia Michaels from Taos Pueblo, New Mexico was always pushing herself further by creating unique, intricate, couture, expensive garments inspired by Native American culture that was always attacked by judges and some fellow designers like the (before selfish) Caucasian Michelle Lesniak Franklin, for instance, that was supposed to have her win that season but instead it was Michelle who won that season instead with a collection that really looked disgusting and lackluster, whatever, despite the color. And then there’s season 10 which was quite a tie between Dmitry Shokolov, who’s Belarussian, and Fabio Costa, who’s Afro-Brazilian. Both of them were very stable but Dmitry’s collection was architectural with neon yellow/green with blue and black while Fabio’s was also tribal and dramatic with pastels and neutrals which looked excellent for spring with handmade jewelry as well as other accessories which quite related to creative Caucasian season 1 winner Jay McCarroll’s collection. Fabio was supposed to win but it went to Dmitry instead. In season 8, Hispanic designer Mondo Guerra whom everyone adores, had a really cute, vibrant colorful collection, that really displayed lots of energy that everyone liked but he was robbed in favor of mean, selfish, insensitive, manipulative douchebag Gretchen Jones, a Caucasian American, who had a sleazy, misunderstand-able, all dirty, poopy-looking brown collection instead. But Mondo was lucky to win Project Runway All Stars season 1 instead, being the first Hispanic to win the franchise, thanks to better judging and I was rooting for him. Season 7, during the first part of the finale, Filipino designer, Jay Nicholas Sario was favored, especially by Filipino and other Asian viewers, to be in the Fashion Week Finale and win despite his collection looking more solid, sophisticated, avant garde, couture, and more colorful (with berry tones) than Michelle’s from season 11 but he was robbed from that spot in which Seth Aaron Henderson, also Caucasian American but quite fatherly, in my opinion, had won instead despite the collection looking a quite too costume-y and messy. Season 6, Irina Shabayeva, a Caucasian Georgian with a nasty attitude, won with a mostly black, drab collection that most viewers hated. In season 5, Korto M, had a dramatic, colorful collection inspired by her African upbringing that the masses could relate to but was robbed in favor of Leanne Marshall, another Caucasian American, whose collection was also dramatic and couture except that it was nothing but neutrals, white, and aqua blue which I couldn’t understand. Season 3, Mychael Knight, an African American, was favored by many viewers to win, especially with his exotic, tropical, dramatic, breezy-looking collection but was totally robbed in favor of Jeffrey Sebelia, a Caucasian of Italian descent, whom viewers pretty much hated, with a Christmas-looking collection that looked distasteful. But however, there have been exceptions. Anya Ayoung-Chee, a Chinese, Indian, and White from Trinidad in season 9 who put Gretchen’s all brown collection to shame as well as compensated for Mychael Knight with an exotic collection mixed with browns, neutrals, and colors that had her win. Chloe Dao, a Laotian raised in Texas, had an elegant, feminine collection that won the second season. There have been fewer minorities and mixed people winning Project Runway but mostly monoracial White Americans and White Europeans winning. Why is that? Even though the majority of America is still Caucasian, the judging panel is predominantly monoracial Caucasian, even though Nina Garcia is Colombian but Spanish. And yes, I’ve heard the judges say racist things about minority designers’ garments and collections like Patricia in season 11, for example, that the horsehair is “too Native”, or Kooan Kosuke from Japan in season 10 in which Nina was said to not understand these Asian styles and references, which made him miserable, etc. in which the show reflects a racist fashion industry that wants to keep its fashions purely White North American and Eurocentric because it’s the norm while anything that is not purely White North American and Eurocentric is too costume-y, trashy, slutty, and exotic.
Even though the cast of Project Runway is always diverse, also as far as race goes, it’s mostly Caucasian, able people (in which some seem to abuse their privilege by being nasty, arrogant, and prejudiced which creates the worst drama that the judges sometimes like) winning the show since America is mostly Caucasian as well as able. Same goes for the fashion industry. Other skill-based reality shows have had a diverse amount of winners such as the recent season of America’s Got Talent in which an Asian of Japanese descent had won, for example, but why can’t a fashion design competition reality show like Project Runway feature a good amount of diverse winners despite their efforts to make their garments unique, sophisticated, classy, and couture? Sure, there is a diverse amount of famous fashion designers, even those that are disabled like Tommy Hilfiger who had dyslexia, for example, but Project Runway really doesn’t seem to reflect it that much, not even in its winners. I believe it’s pretty much rooted in the insensitivity, arrogance, and selfishness of the judges, despite that they’re considered smart and that they know what they are doing, even though it hasn’t happened much on Project Runway All Stars, despite their all monoracial Caucasian judging, able panel like Project Runway. In other words, the fashion industry is not also marginalizing, or biased whatever, towards minority, mixed, and/or disabled models but also towards fashion designers who are minority, mixed, and/or disabled like on Project Runway, for example.
In regards to the previous post about Juan Pablo Galavis being the next Bachelor for season 18, it was announced this week that he is the Bachelor for season 18 after 11 seasons of not having any minority Bachelors as The Bachelor on ABC. Thank goodness! But there are some people who have concerns about minorities being the Bachelor. Some say that minorities may have oppressive, negative attitudes about women and expect women to act according to their culture by being submissive, silent, indifferent, aloof, cold, uninterested, indecisive, inexpressive, mysterious, etc. White men expect that too. But since Juan Pablo is the new Bachelor, he may probably may not expect that of women at all, due to his laid back attitude in The Bachelorette season 9. I hope he doesn’t or else, he can get dumped, especially if the contestants are progressive, liberal, and/or moderate. And progressive, liberal, and/or moderate women don’t like men who expect them to abide by strict gender roles by being submissive and silent 100 percent because they’re considered abusive and controlling, starting with conservative, traditional men since they believe more in strict gender roles and expect women to follow the rules according to their gender. If women step out and behave badly, they’re in big trouble with their men considering conservative, traditional men cannot stand bad girls and therefore are harsh with them whenever they get involved with them. They hold women to a higher standard and expect them to be perfectly good girls. Anyway, to sum up this paragraph, men are never held to a higher standard nor pressured to have a perfectly good marriage by marrying their own race that much. They can do whatever they please since they are considered to be superior and almighty, knowing society is still patriarchal and male-heavy (as far as population goes).
As for The Bachelorette, now how long will it take to get a minority Bachelorette? Maybe not that long. But if a minority Bachelorette is announced for season 10, there may be much terrible concerns like mentioned before such as pressure from the family to choose their own race over different races including mixed race men and racist fights among men of her race the family wants but she doesn’t like and men of another race paired with mixed race men her family doesn’t want but she likes which will lead into a longer season since women are often pressured to have a perfectly good marriage by marrying within their race. In other words, if a minority is chosen to be the next Bachelorette for season 10, it can be a longer season due to the lead being indecisive and confused due to being under family pressure to choose her own race over a different one or a mixed one (whom her family sees as confusing and not perfectly good enough due to their cultural ambiguity) which is another concern as well as the family interfering with everything too, including producers and host Chris Harrison (in which there will be arguments with them and him due to cultural misunderstandings), which is common among women who date and have relationships out of their race or with mixed race men. So therefore, there are lots of concerns, even if a White Bachelorette has a largely diverse cast of male contestants. Family pressure to choose Whites only over minorities and mixed men as well as family interference with everything and White men being racist to minority and mixed men as well as getting into physical fights because of race which may cause the White Bachelorette to be indecisive and confused as to who to choose just like minority one which will lead into a longer season as well. White women are also pressured into having a perfectly good marriage by marrying within their own race too. It’s common because society expects way too much of women and thus holds them to a higher standard. If they screw up, they’re in big trouble for the rest of their lives. If they’re openly well-accomplished, ridicule. Their success has to be mediocre and subtle in which they get more praise which is considered destructive to progressives because society is encouraging mediocrity among women which holds them back and that men prefer mediocre women, especially if they are conservative, traditional, yet insecure.
But above all, I’m glad that ABC announced it’s first minority Bachelor this week, especially with that lawsuit filed last year by two Black football players from Nashville, Tennessee, which also includes Native Americans in the mix along with Whites and Blacks who have fewer problems with each other, alleging that the producers were racist while they were auditioning for a lead role on The Bachelor in which I’d like to see one of those Black football players as the Bachelor. Another thing about The Bachelorette, will Desiree Hartstock be the last White Bachelorette or not? I mean, Sean Lowe was already the last White Bachelor. But for Desiree Hartstock being the last White Bachelorette, that’s a tough question. I know some people will have lots of concerns over a minority Bachelorette if she is chosen for season 10 of The Bachelorette.
If you are a White person in defense of minorities, including your friends, significant other, or spouse, you would definitely want Venezuelan American Juan Pablo Galavis to be the first minority bachelor for next season.
I believe it is about time that there be a Bachelor who is a minority, even if they are mixed. For the past couple of seasons of The Bachelor, there have been nothing but fully White leads and it’s really bland. And I also believe that The Bachelorette season 9 contestant, Juan Pablo Galavis should be the next Bachelor for season 18 next year. Let’s face it, there’s never been a minority Bachelor in a long time and before that, there were other Hispanics, Roberto Martinez, who won season 6, and Olympic swimmer Ryan Lochte (who is half White) and a Black guy named Lamar Hurd who were aiming for the spot but they ended up losing to White guys who made everything boring except for the last season of The Bachelor which had a good amount of minorities with an Asian/White girl winning in the end. So that means Sean Lowe is the last White Bachelor and according to Wikipedia, Juan Pablo Galavis is listed as the next Bachelor for season 18 but there is a racist post about him in this forum, unfortunately. I mean, once Juan Pablo becomes the next Bachelor, I hope there better not be racist Tweets nor Facebook posts about him because that would be very idiotic. Other problems he could face as the Bachelor are female contestants with jealous boyfriends who are xenophobic and racist who may threaten him (just because of his race and accent), in which he can sue and possibly send to jail, especially if they have racist and xenophobic families who like their boyfriends better which I know is more common among American Whites, most notably from the South, except coastal cities which tend to be more diverse, especially with the inclusion of Native Americans.
And with the way, Juan arrived during the first week of The Bachelorette season 9, he was more simple than the other contender for the spot, Zak Waddell who was flashing his well-built body in front of Desiree! Of course, Zak got eliminated later on nor do I want him as the next Bachelor for season 18, not even Chris from season 9 nor Ben Flajnik who was the Bachelor for season 16 last year. We’ve had too many White Bachelors and it’s time there is a minority for this role, whether they be Latino, Black, mixed, etc. It sounds more realistic and resembles America better.
Anyway, Juan just gave her a small piece of chocolate and that’s it. And he was very stable throughout the season and he even tweeted that he’s just a regular guy, that’s all. Of course, the other guys were crazy as usual and bringing drama by insulting each other as well as getting into physical fights. Other than that, he is a single father to a daughter, named Camilla, and he spends a lot of time with her.
As for a minority Bachelorette for season 10 and beyond, there could be more drama than having a minority Bachelor for the next season and beyond even though there may be nothing wrong with it. It’s just that they may have overprotective, overbearing families that could pressure them to choose their own race, even if they are crazy and bring drama to others by being racist to other guys who are different from the girl, for example, telling them that their guys of their race are better than other races even when they may not be which may lead to them having trouble choosing between their race and another race, especially in the finale, and guys being racist to each other by throwing racial slurs at each other, etc. and getting into physical fights because of race, which can cause them to be sent home. Of course, this could be common in Asian, Hispanic, and Middle Eastern girls, for example, since their families tend to be more authoritarian and want them to have good marriages by marrying their own race even when they don’t want to, even when the guys their families want for them have authoritarian, negative attitudes like their families, but it can be common among Blacks too since they have close-knit, collectivist families. Even White girls are also the same, especially if they come from conservative families who have a tendency to set them up with White guys, even when they are crazy, compared to the non-White guys with nicer, more stable personalities that they are into, which is more common in smaller, not-so-diverse communities. In other words, parents tend to be more overprotective and overbearing with their daughters compared to their sons even when their daughters are grown up, independent, and financially stable. It’s like saying that independent women cannot be safe even if they try to victimize people including men which could lead them to being victimized back, for example, considering women are physically weaker and smaller and are easier to influence compared to men who are physically stronger and bigger and therefore more difficult to influence which makes it more easier for men to be independent. Parents tend to be less overprotective and overbearing with sons because sons can fight back people who try to influence them and make physical advances towards them real easily.
But then society does glorify men for being aggressive, prejudiced, and catty with other men over women compared to women in the same manner when it comes to men and it is considered more natural, or the norm, for men to be competitive with other men over women than women in the same manner with men. So what’s new with that? Nothing. It’s always been that way and it still is.
Anyway, to sum it up, The Bachelor and Bachelorette shows need diversity among leads and cast to make it more exciting and realistic to the average American. There have been too many White people on those shows and they have been nothing but boring, considering some of their sponsors are probably racist. I guess the reason why Whites were always put on those shows is also because of viewers in smaller, not-so-diverse communities, especially in the South for example, which is still very racist to this day and emphasizes a lot on racial purity and same race marriage which is very destructive and can lead to unhappiness and misery. But Southern cities that are close to the sea are a different story. There’s more interracial couples than the not-so-interesting inland ones like Atlanta, for instance, because as mentioned before, they’re more diverse and there’s less racism, which is even better.
Aside from that, once Juan is on season 18 of The Bachelor, I’m sure it would be diverse and not limited to one race. And even Juan himself stated that he is interested in the role because he is looking for a stepmother for his daughter since his daughter’s biological mother had walked out on him and she is no longer around. That I don’t blame him for. There have been single fathers on The Bachelor before and there’s nothing wrong with that.
I know in America we have the right to be stupid and ignorant, but I swear I think we should have a basic right as a nation to kick people out that don't have a base level of intelligence. Latina magazine reported this:
This is crazy! Not only do 11-year-old Mexican-American boys get attacked when they sing songs about the U.S.A., now even big stars do, too.
Crazy thing is that there are people who believe that only White or even Black people that can sing songs about America at sporting events here in America, knowing they look at them as All-American types. Anyone who is Latino, Asian, or Middle Eastern can't, even if they are American citizens, which is really idiotic. What is up with that? There are stereotypes from some people thinking that they are not All-American for sure. I don't know about Native Americans singing songs about America in sporting events even though they are originally American. But anyway, Spanish is also a second language in the US, thanks to the Latino population and some states that were once Spanish and Mexican territories.
As for Marc Anthony singing "God Bless America" at last Tuesday's MLB Baseball All-Star Game, he's never faced much racist backlash for singing the national anthem at a Miami Heat basketball game, I think, for sure. Even other Latino singers have performed songs about America in sporting events in our country before with hardly any racial backlash as well like Christina Aguilera during the 2011 Superbowl. But what is also up with that? I mean, Marc Anthony does reside here in the US for sure. I know he's lived in Miami and LA and yet people have the nerve to post idiotic racist tweets about him singing "God Bless America" during last Tuesday's MLB All-Star Game? Sure, I've got no problem with it but other people in my hometown sure do since I live in Georgia which has one of the most racist tweets in the nation, especially in the Atlanta area where I am from considering there is still racism and ignorance.
Aside from that, there were also racist tweets against the 11-year-old Mexican-American boy who sang the national anthem during Game 3 of the NBA Finals this year between the Miami Heat and San Antonio Spurs which took place in San Antonio, Texas in which the Spurs won. Now those racist tweets against the kid are just as worse as Marc Anthony singing "God Bless America" during last Tuesday's MLB All-Star Game. And if it were an Asian or Middle Eastern American singing songs about America during sporting events across the country, it would be even worse since Asians and Middle Easterners make up like less than 5% of the US population or so compared to Latinos. I know in San Francisco, California, for example, where I used to live, people would be yelling racism if people were posting bad tweets about Asian Americans singing songs about America during sporting events, knowing people there hate anything racist, including their online newspapers like SF Gate, for instance. Of course, San Francisco is very diverse compared to Atlanta. Same goes for San Antonio, Miami, and LA which makes those cities sound more interesting and fun, especially when people are more integrated versus segregated like Atlanta.
I know I haven’t been here in a long time but the original blog post about not marrying career women was originally from a Forbes Magazine business writer by the name of Michael Noer.
He graduated magna cum laude from Rice University in 1992 and apparently, there are highly educated men today who still believe that women should have at least an associate’s degree and be dependent on them for money while they earn little money, cook, clean, and take care of the children. It’s usually those that come from traditional, conservative, backward homes that still believe that women should be subordinate, submissive, and unequal to them because they think it will ruin the family if she has a bachelor’s or master’s degree and has a stable career that pays her well. But progressive, liberal and flexible thinkers believe that a wife should also be an equal money earner with a steady who also helps send her adolescent children to college and pays their expenses. It occurs usually in forward parts of our country but in backward parts of our country, such as Georgia, where I come from which is a very conservative red state, it doesn’t. The husband is strictly the primary breadwinner who makes a lot of money and provides while the wife is strictly the primary homemaker who cooks, cleans, raises the children, and earns little to possibly no money. And when the wife wants to improve herself and learn new skills, it can piss off the husband. This type of attitude is not only common in some parts of North America but it’s even worse in third world countries and cultures where women struggle a lot to earn a living for their families and themselves, especially when they are married because their husbands get so easily pissed off and feel emasculated when they want to improve themselves due to cultural traditions that emphasize strict gender roles, even in marriage, which are often oppressive, abusive, and could lead to separation or even divorce.
And men who think like this are either less likely to get married, more likely to divorce, or even abuse their wives who have good careers that they are happy with that give them good money. My dad had a brother-in-law who was like this with my aunt, a doctor now living in San Diego, CA. He was so fed up with my aunt making more money than he did that he was verbally abusive that she ended up leaving because of his insecurity. There are successful women who have been or are married to men who want to control them since they feel less of a man around them and want to maintain the status quo which includes strict gender roles. Usually these women are expected to be home at the time their husbands exactly want them, cook, clean, and be with the children. No interacting with other men that are more successful and attractive, hanging out with them, etc. This is another reason why career women are expected to do the housework and rearing the children after work when they are tired. It’s to prevent them from cheating on their husbands and getting pregnant by other men. That’s what I believe it is, especially when a career woman is so beautiful and unique. She’s most likely to pick up other men more successful and attractive than her husband or boyfriend which increases the chance of verbal and physical abuse against them. It happens.
Even though there are men with this kind of attitude in most cultures, it’s most likely that they are still single or divorced because these women won’t even come to them. And even if women are married to these heterosexist, backward type men, they will eventually leave for progressive, forward ones who embrace them as equals and pay the bills together. No successful, good-earning career woman wants to give up whatever she has to a narrow-minded man who thinks it’s unfeminine and wants her to quit her job once she marries him just because he can’t stand what she does. This is what every man should consider when looking for a wife. She is not a child who has to depend on him for money. She is an adult who can make money for herself and help the family, especially when the children are about to enter college. This is considered outdated, destructive thinking in progressive societies but not in traditional societies where strict gender roles are highly emphasized which lead to divorce and even domestic violence. So therefore, there’s a need for career women to marry progressive men over traditional ones who can be abusive and dangerous, even when they come from egalitarian, progressive families who don’t emphasize who they should marry and even those from traditional families who emphasize who they should marry won’t marry traditional men who their families like and will choose progressive ones who love them unconditionally and want equality.
There was an explosion today in the city of Boston, MA during the Boston Marathon at 2:50 pm EST in which three people were now killed and one-hundred forty-one now injured and investigators are suspecting domestic terrorism behind this. Some people say this sounds like the 18th century Boston Massacre which doesn’t seem like it. A lot of people were injured and a few were killed. There were people from ninety-six countries that participated in this considering there were flags surrounding the event. In addition, two bombs were said to have been found as well but are there any suspects behind this thing? Of course, but they must be hiding so they wouldn’t get caught. Also, security is increasing across a lot of cities in North America, including Atlanta, GA where I come from due to this recent attack. I know the Oklahoma City bombing and the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks were much worse because so many people were killed. But for this Boston Marathon explosion, so many people were injured and I hope they recover from their injuries from the attack.
Travis Westwood is sixteen years old. He lives in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada with his dad who has been divorced from his mom ever since he was five years old. He is a hard-working African-Canadian student who’s never gotten into trouble much and has a good amount of friends as well as a Canadian-born Palestinian girlfriend named Selma Abdi-Tahari whom he has dated for two months but unfotunately, she had a crush on her gym and health teacher, Mr. Johnny Toriello, a single young man of twenty-six, handsome and fit with light blond hair and blue eyes even though she was seventeen. Travis had been hearing rumors from his friends that Selma was dating Johnny and was sleeping with him and the only thing he had to do was to find out from Selma if these rumors were true or not.